I always wonder if other people struggle in being a generous and happy person.
I’m very certain that not everyone can be fully happy all the time. We’re human, and of course, we have flaws. That’s why everyone says “Nobody’s perfect; be yourself.” And that’s a pretty overused phrase.
I’m certain that there’s, well…not an “alternative,” per se, but there’s a similar but greatly different way of making yourself happy. The “Nobody’s perfect” and “Be yourself” phrases don’t sound specific. Sure, they sound straightforward, but I feel that it sounds too vague as to what it really means to the person - that, of course, is only my opinion, or how I see it.
When someone goes through a period of depression, I’d like to try and help them out by telling them about the different ways of aquiring happiness and optimism. Keep in mind that everyone’s different, so there are many different ways.
You could always talk to someone to make yourself better. Not as in asking for help, but I suppose as in talking to someone in conversation. Talk about things you like, what the other person likes, your interests, latest happenings. But try not to rant. You won’t get anywhere with that. Maybe you can rant “lightly,” like if it’s not a heavy topic (ie - food. You could say that no one likes Yum Cha, but hey, Yum Cha is AMAZING), you could just say a few words on it, get your and said person’s brief opinion, on it, and move on to whatever you want to elaborate on next. Talk about nice things. Maybe even surprise yourself!
Other things that you could try to do is, I suppose, just think of things. Imagining and daydreaming is a good escape for things. Elaborating on your own thoughts is just as great too. You really get to know about your perspective and perception of the world and your surroundings.
The thing is, however, is that you are not sure if sharing these thoughts to someone will let people see you differently. Well, that depends on what you say to them. Be careful with your words - they could hurt or discomfort people at times. You will know when that person would react greatly to what you say.
Sometimes, it may not be obvious, because we hide ourself with a facade, or a layer, to cover up. People can always keep things to themselves, and try not to express these thoughts to an individual - because they feel that it’s best to elaborate situations and other people’s words when they are not [feeling at] their best.
So I suppose to conclude this, if you’d like to make yourself happy - share your thoughts with like-minded people, or elaborate on them and maybe think about how you can be a better and humble person. Commit to others by committing happiness to others. Again, not everyone can work on this, because we’re all different, but people are always and will always be capable of making others happy - and making yourself a great person, I suppose.